Etiquette by Aunt Bougie™ | Style & Etiquette Consulting
When elegance meets etiquette, even the smallest detail leaves a lasting impression.
Finger bowls — those shallow, often lemon- or herb-scented vessels of warm water — may seem like a forgotten tradition to some, but to the well-mannered, they are a quiet signal of refinement during multi-course meals and spice-forward evenings (yes, curry nights included).
If you ever find yourself face-to-fork with a finger bowl, don’t panic — Aunt Bougie™ has you covered. Here’s exactly how to use one with grace and polish:
✨ How to Use a Finger Bowl Without Looking (or Being) a Mess:
1️⃣. Dip all five fingertips of one hand into the warm water at the same
time – no splashing, darling.
2️⃣. Gently swirl your fingers – this is a rinse, not a soak.
3️⃣. Discreetly dry your hand with your cloth napkin – no waving or
flinging.
4️⃣ Repeat the same motion with your other hand.
5️⃣. Resist temptation: the floating lemon slice, mint sprig, or flower is for
fragrance, not for play. Leave it in the bowl.
6️⃣. Slide the finger bowl slightly up and to the left of your main plate –
think near the bread plate if one is present.
7️⃣. Pause in poise: dessert is next. You’re now refreshed and ready.
Aunt Bougie’s Final Word:
Finger bowls aren’t just about cleanliness – they’re a subtle nod to tradition, attentiveness, and cultural awareness. And in a world obsessed with bold moves, there’s power in the quiet elegance of knowing exactly what to do when no one else does.
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With timeless poise and polished power –
Strive & Thrive,
Aunt Bougie™ 