By Aunt T. Bougie | Style & Etiquette Consulting
“Crystal, crystal in my hand; may I have one more and still stand?”
In the world of champagne toasts, cocktail chatter, and luxe soirées, knowing your limit is the real power move.
There’s a certain finesse to enjoying yourself without letting yourself go — and over the years, I’ve found one unexpectedly elegant trick that has never failed me.
The secret?
I check the glass.
No, not for a refill — for clarity.
✨ The Bougie Clarity Test:
Before you order another drink, pause and take a look at your glass:
- Foggy fingerprints?
- Sticky lipstick smudges multiplying?
- The clarity gone cloudy?
That’s your cue — not just to wipe it down, but to put it down.
If the crystal no longer shines, chances are… neither will your decisions.
And Aunt Bougie™ does not do disheveled or regretful.
👑 Why It Matters:
Inhibitions tend to blur when the glass does too. What starts as one more toast can turn into oversharing, slurred words, or missteps that dim your glow and compromise your image.
Elegance is not about abstaining — it’s about knowing when to switch to sparkling water and gracefully bow out of the bottomless pours.
Presence is preserved. Power is protected.
And the next day? You wake up polished, proud, and in control.
🥂 Aunt Bougie’s Bottom Line:
Don’t let the night define you.
Let your clarity lead you.
Strive. Rise. Thrive.
— Aunt T. Bougie™
Aunt Bougie™ 